Learnings from the Management Consultant: Nothing Anyone Else Does is About You!

The first time I read The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz this was the agreement that had the most profound effect on me. I read it several times before it started to sink in. If nothing anyone else did was about me, what in the world was I thinking when I tried to guilt other people out or make excuses for my own issues by walking around with a ‘V’ on my forehead. The ‘V’, of course, stood for VICTIM.

I spent so much time thinking:

“If only she would do this, or, he would stop doing that, my business would be a success.”

“If only this would happen or that hadn’t happened I would have won that bid.”

Then there was the ominous “they”.

“They” stood in the way of my success.

“They” could afford to undercut my bid or put more people on any job.

After internalizing this, I realized I was wasting the energy I needed to be successful by worrying about the effect other people were having on my business rather than focusing on what I needed to do to make my business successful.

Understanding that nothing anyone else does is about you, allows you to own your own power and get on with it.

Published by Leah Ward-Lee

Leah Ward-Lee, the author of "$1,000 Start-Ups", is a serial micro-entrepreneur. She opened her first business at ten after lobbying for and receiving a shoe shine kit for Christmas. She pulled her wagon through the neighborhood, going door-to-door, offering to shine her neighbor’s shoes for twenty-five cents a pair. Once her wagon was full, she took the shoes home and polished them. Unfortunately that business was short-lived. She hadn’t tagged the shoes and couldn’t remember whose shoes were whose, so her dad went with her to retrace the route until every pair was returned. Since then she’s had businesses developing and teaching college courses, instructing aerobic classes, owning half a plane that was rented to a flight and maintenance school, and renting homes. She’s also owned a consignment store, a gift shop, a gift basket business, a consulting firm, hosted The Executive Toolbox (a weekly radio show), and a publishing company. She also spent twenty years in the US Army, served as the Chief Information and Technical Officer for two major insurance companies, and has a second career as a management consultant. Leah resides in Dallas, TX and on Amelia Island with Sammy and Goliath, her two rescue dogs.


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